“ When a child is born, it needs nurturing, training, and molding. So the need for family arose. Family is a very supportive base for a human being to grow. But for many people, family does not become a support, it becomes a hurdle. Not because family is a problem, but because of the way you hold it ”
If you are truly concerned about your children, creating a joyful and loving atmosphere for their growth is most important. Not providing them shiny boots, better clothes, video games or something else is important
Somewhere along the way in your life, the world and its people will have a problem with you. That's their problem. Not yours.
Competition will make children determined and focused in one way, at the same time make them fearful of failure, fearful of being less than somebody else. Here you will see they don't have that at all in them. Every one of them is a king by himself.
If you hurt other people because they have an expectation of you that's their problem. If they have an agreement from you that's yours
If you have a better alternative, damn the marriage but you have not come up with a better alternative because a stable situation is a must for a child.