“ You either insulate yourself from other people's pain or you insulate yourself from the very joy of life. Both could be alive in you at the same time... if you looked at life just the way it is, not distorting it according to your emotions, your identifications ”
Source: Book: Why Suffering? page 14
if you are going to make people around you joyful and relieved only when you die, that's not a good way to live.
Love like rain, can nourish from above, drenching couples with a soaking joy. But sometimes under the angry heat of life, love dries on the surface and must nourish from below, tending to its roots keeping itself alive.
You have wrapped life in all kinds of philosophies, in your ideas, in your emotions, in (all) things that you created, that you neither see the beauty of it nor the pain of it.
If you see both "pain" and "beauty" of Life, then there would be enormous compassion in you, and yet no pain in you. There would be joy in you even though there is so much misery.
For most people life means their job, life means the new house, the car that they bought, their wife, their husband, their children. No! Life is what's throbbing within, not even your body, not your mind, not your thought, not your emotion. What is right now throbbing within you is life. Only because this is ON everything else seems to be meaningful