“ That's the thing about lessons, you always learn them when you don't expect them or want them. ”
Source: If You Could See Me Now
For the things we have to learn before we can do them, we learn by doing them.
I've seen how you can't learn anything when you're trying to look like the smartest person in the room.
Instead of treating events as wins or losses, ask “Did I learn something I can apply in the future?” If not, you must treat it as a loss.
The splendid thing about falling apart silently... is that you can start over as many times as you like.