“ If it is impairing you rather than empowering you, then it is not Love, it is some convoluted idea ”
Live without pretending, love without depending, listen without defending, speak without offending.
Undoubtedly the mind is fickle and unruly; but by yoga practice and by dispassion, the mind may nevertheless be controlled.
For those who have conquered the mind, the mind is their friend. For those who have failed to do so, the mind acts like an enemy.
A spiritual process means just that - that the outside situations need not drive you, the outside situations do not mold you.
The most precious thing in life is life itself. Are you getting this now or only on your deathbed?