“ Love is not a joy; it is a deep, wonderful pain. Everything within you should tear. Only then will you know what love is. ”
If you are a source of joy by yourself & do not try to extract joy from another person, you will have wonderful relationships with anybody
Joy is not a goal by itself. Joy is a condition that opens you up for life. It opens you up to perceive and know life
You cannot rise in love, you cannot stand in love, you cannot fly in love, you have to fall. Something of you should fall, otherwise it will not work. You will not know it.
If you just become love, not love somebody then you will know the nature of love.
When you feel someone else's pain and joy as powerfully as if it were your own, then you know you really loved them.