“ Relationships are not about extracting happiness but about giving joy to the other. Short journeys can be made alone, long journeys need reliable and resilient Relationships. ”
If you have become a joy by yourself and you are forming relationships because you want to express your happiness, nobody is going to complain about you because you are in the process of expressing your joy not seeking joy from the other person.
Relationships have become a mutual exploitative process. You try to milk happiness out of somebody, somebody tries to milk something else out of you. If you take the responsibility of making yourself the way you want yourself to be.. you would be naturally joyful.
A marriage is not an absolute thing that you can do once and forget. It is an active partnership.
What most people are calling marriage right now is just a whole bundle of expectations about how the other person should make heaven for you. If you're trying to extract happiness out of somebody, you will be disappointed.
Marriage means weaving two lives into one. Thinking, feeling, and living beyond yourself can be a stepping stone to ultimate union.