“ If you have become a joy by yourself and you are forming relationships because you want to express your happiness, nobody is going to complain about you because you are in the process of expressing your joy not seeking joy from the other person. ”
If you really want to have absolutely fantastic relationships.. you need to establish yourself as a joyful human being
If you are happy by your own nature, now relationships will become a means for you to express your happiness not to seek happiness.
Relationships are not about extracting happiness but about giving joy to the other. Short journeys can be made alone, long journeys need reliable and resilient Relationships.
You don't have to please anybody in this world, if you are truly joyful everybody is pleased by you
Right now, you believe that something or someone else is the source of your joy, so you are always at their mercy. If you realize and experientially know that you are the source of your joy, wouldn't you be joyous all the time?