“ If you really want to have absolutely fantastic relationships.. you need to establish yourself as a joyful human being ”
If you have become a joy by yourself and you are forming relationships because you want to express your happiness, nobody is going to complain about you because you are in the process of expressing your joy not seeking joy from the other person.
If you are happy by your own nature, now relationships will become a means for you to express your happiness not to seek happiness.
If you live joyfully until the last moment, you don't have to worry about death - that will also be a joyful process.
Relationships are not about extracting happiness but about giving joy to the other. Short journeys can be made alone, long journeys need reliable and resilient Relationships.
I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.