“ Mama used to say, you have to know someone a thousand days before you can glimpse her soul. ”
Source: Book of a Thousand Days
Re-examine all you have been told. Dismiss what insults your soul.
Sometimes it's not enough to know what things mean, sometimes you have to know what things don't mean.
When you realize there is something you don't understand, then you're generally on the right path to understanding all kinds of things.