“ What you need to make your marriage successful is not the perfect person. What you need is absolute integrity. ”
A good marriage is where both people feel like they're getting the better end of the deal.
Now you're calling your success with somebody as love, that's a mistake. You have a success story with somebody - that is, you have created pleasantness in the atmosphere between you and the other person. You're calling that love; no that is actually success because that needs lots of management.
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility.
You can measure the happiness of a marriage by the number of scars that each partner carries on their tongues, earned from years of biting back angry words.
What most people are calling marriage right now is just a whole bundle of expectations about how the other person should make heaven for you. If you're trying to extract happiness out of somebody, you will be disappointed.